The Approach –Making the first move.

Funny enough most men’s area of concern is 'the approach' and it is all due to anxiety, or more specifically the lack of confidence. The problem with this is, that as a woman they are naturally more attracted to someone who shows confidence (not arrogance), so by being anxious you are already losing her interest. This is obviously not a rule but it will be the outcome most of the time.

It is not natural for most people to start conversations randomly with strangers and hence adds to the lack of confidence when trying to do so. My advice is to build up your nerve by starting conversations with strangers at every opportunity. You will find it easier to approach people when you are not thinking about getting a date, or being rejected. Start conversations at supermarkets with both men and women to build your confidence and to prove to yourself that people will generally respond well. Make sure your conversation is in context; for example, at the supermarket, start a conversation with the person ahead of you by asking them how a specific product that they are purchasing tastes.

Remember that body language is 80% of communication so always smile and be aware of your posture etc. See what works best and then use what you feel comfortable with when approaching for a date. Be confident, but don’t try and change your personality, be confident in your own context.

What to say? Well I definitely recommend forgetting any canned openers. It’s too obvious and they have heard it a million times. Unless you are very confident and use it with humour, I advise to stay well away. Try to be original and start the conversation with a comment that they are not expecting. Ideally something that they will not be prepared for. I use to make comments about their outfit and say ' I’m not sure that those shoes work with that outfit! I know... risky, but it touches a nerve with women and I definitely get their undivided attention. After that it’s about laughing it off and starting the small talk. I also recommend not being so bold if you lack the confidence and instead use something like 'Do you know any other good bars/rest that we can visit in the area?

The opening line really needs to suit you and your personality and always start with what you are comfortable with. You have to be yourself, just a more confident, charming you.
If you are trying to pick up girls in bars then usually it is a good idea to look around with a smile and catch women’s eyes- by giving a little smile you can get an initial vibe of how you would or wouldn’t approach.

Hot Girls- contrary to popular thought, the hotter the girl the easier it will be. Bimbos aside! I’m talking full package, well dressed, good looking and friendly. These girls get hit on the least because most men are intimidated by them. Instead they usually get hit on by the arrogant or the drunk. They would be appreciative of being spoken to by a gentleman.

Success is for the Bold.